Some may say that this language is too harsh. To those people, I remind that within the context of that contest, there could only be one "winner". Tough life lesson, perhaps. The good news is that it better prepares little Susie or Johnny for real life and how to graciously accept loss. It teaches them that being a "loser" in one activity does not make them losers in life. It teaches kids that losing at something is OK, even normal, and does not define them.
Can you imagine working with a colleague, client, employee or boss who has never tasted loss? It would be horrible. They would be unrealistic, expecting adulation and being called a "trier", never admitting that they miss the mark from time to time. First time they were called a "loser" in a work context, or told that they "failed" to reach a goal would be devastating.
When we are excessively politically correct and cautious with our language, we run the risk of having no opinion at all, taking no stand on anything. We gamble filtering our communication through such an excessively stringent filter that it has no more body, flavor or substance.
Let me be clear here -- I am not advocating calling yourself or others "losers". What I'm suggesting is that we all lighten up a bit with political correctness. Let's try not being so offended when no offense was intended. Let's remember that maybe, just maybe, it's OK to be called winners and losers, especially in the sports arena. Being called a "loser" in one arena does not a loser make. I believe that you only lose when the learning opportunity is lost. Losing every now and then, and even being called a "loser", is OK. After all, it's only through these experiences that we learn to win graciously.
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© 2010 Marion Grobb Finkelstein
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