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Buttons 'n Bows

Marion Grobb Finkelstein - Sunday, December 26, 2010
Buttons and bows. It seems like such a small thing, a jar of miscellaneous buttons clipped from countless items of clothing. To me, it represented a lifetime of loving care, a tangible link to my past, and I couldn't bring myself to get rid of it.
 
When my mom passed away last month, I stumbled upon a mason jar of buttons she had collected. Mom had been an avid seamstress in her day, not so much because she loved sewing but rather more because sewing allowed a meager budget to be stretched. I remember well her hands deftly working the fabrics, clipping and snipping, mending and making our clothes. This mason jar of buttons represented all that to me -- but what to do with it now? I couldn't bring myself to throw it out.
 
And then, at this magic time of year, I had a brainflash. I strung the buttons together on wire, added festive ribbon and voila -- button'n bow tree ornaments were created! The delight on my sister's and niece's faces when I gave them theirs was absolutely joyful to witness. They, like me, understood what those buttons represented.
 
My wish for you and yours during this holiday season is that you find and share the magic moments in your life. Your joy may come from the most ordinary and unexpected places -- a coffee with a friend you haven't seen in a while, a card received from a relative, or a special recipe a loved one gave you years ago that fills your home with familiar aromas and your heart with memories.
 
Whether you celebrate Christmas, Channukah, or simply life itself, this season is a time of celebration and memories -- remembering old ones and creating new ones. Here's wishing you a year of "buttons and bows" moments.
 
Cheers,
Marion

Winners and Losers

Marion Grobb Finkelstein - Sunday, September 26, 2010
A number of years ago, my husband, with his second degree karate black belt, was judging a karate kid contest and announcing at the end of each round the "winner" and "loser" for the recordkeeper. After one particular round, a parent came over to him and scolded, "my child is not a loser -- he's a tryer". Steve carried on, ignoring this input, and throughout the day he continued to announce the "winners" and "losers" per round.

Some may say that this language is too harsh. To those people, I remind that within the context of that contest, there could only be one "winner". Tough life lesson, perhaps. The good news is that it better prepares little Susie or Johnny for real life and how to graciously accept loss. It teaches them that being a "loser" in one activity does not make them losers in life. It teaches kids that losing at something is OK, even normal, and does not define them.

Can you imagine working with a colleague, client, employee or boss who has never tasted loss? It would be horrible. They would be unrealistic, expecting adulation and being called a "tryer', never admitting that they miss the mark from time to time. First time they were called a "loser" in a work context, or told that they "failed" to reach a goal would be devastating. 

When we are excessively politically correct and cautious with our language, we run the risk of having no opinion at all, taking no stand on anything. We gamble filtering our communication through such an excessively stringent filter that it has no more body, flavor or substance.

 

Let me be clear here -- I am not advocating calling yourself or others "losers". What I'm suggesting is that we all lighten up a bit with political correctness. Let's try not being so offended when no offense was intended. Let's remember that maybe, just maybe, it's OK to be called winners and losers, especially in the sports arena.  Being called a "loser" in one arena does not a loser make. I believe that you only lose when the learning opportunity is lost. Losing every now and then, and even being called a "loser", is OK. After all, it's only through these experiences that we learn to win graciously.

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Until next time, here's to
Positive communication,
Productive relationships,
Powerful results!

Marion Grobb Finkelstein
Keynote Speaker / Corporate Trainer / Author
www.MarionSpeaks.com
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